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Attitude of Gratitude

2012 is half gone already!  What have you accomplished?  Are you on the halfway mark to your goals and New Year’s resolutions?  Or are you lagging far behind?


Have you started living life with an attitude of gratitude?  Do you realize that the power of gratitude can accelerate your body’s healing?  Not many people are aware of this and some feel that this is bull-shit!  But the bottom line is that expressing gratitude initiates a powerful healing effect in the body, mind and soul.  It may sound bizarre but there have been many cases which have been documented in history.


It is incredible how the words ‘Thank You’ can hold so much power and healing energy.  It is noted that every type of energy that we express to another being is actually reflected in our own inner experience.  For example, if we were to express love towards someone else, we are subjecting ourselves to the reflection of that feeling of love.  Which means that if we were to always express love and thanks, we would be enriching our own lives with the positive energy of gratitude and we would somehow feel this positive energy from inside us.


Expressing gratitude at all times will also enhance the law of attraction.  As we go about being grateful in our lives, we are also causing the vibrations of all things positive to transform our minds and it somehow helps us attract what we want, and thus increase our life satisfaction.  The more positive energy we give out, the more we start to attract back positive energy.


So what do we have that we can show gratitude for?  Plenty, if we just sit down and think about it.  Here is a list of a few of the things that we can be thankful for:-


-       our health

-       our family

-       our finances

-       our career

-       our blessings

-       our life

-       our friends

-       our loved ones

-       our pets

-       our food

-       our variety of food

-       our home

-       our memories

-       our lifestyle

-       beautiful music

-       spectacular beaches

-       breath taking sceneries

-       colourful flowers

-       opportunities

-       peace


There are a million and one things in our lives to be grateful for if we just spend a few minutes each and every day to take some time to reflect.


“Both abundance and lack exist simultaneously in our lives, as parallel realities. It is always our conscious choice which secret garden we will tend… when we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that’s present, the wasteland of illusion falls away and we experience Heaven on earth.”– Sarah Ban Breathnach


Let us start to be grateful for all the big as well as little things in life.  An attitude of gratitude can transform your life.  So why wait?  Start now and manifest the law of attraction in your life.  :D

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Fathers Day Cards

Fathers Day Cards

Fathers Day Card

Father’s Day, similar to Mother’s Day, is a day set aside to recognise and honour fathers as well as celebrate fatherhood.  Each year, Fathers Day commemorates the father’s role in raising a child as well as the father’s importance in the family as well as society.

The date which Father’s Day is celebrated varies amongst countries, but the majority of countries including United States and United Kingdom celebrate this special day on the third Sunday in June.  On Father’s Day, many will make that extra effort to honour and thank the father figure in the household as well as convey love and gratitude to father.

Without doubt, fathers play as important a role as mothers with their unconditional love as well as encouragement and motivation.

Personally, I lost my father due to a road accident almost twenty years ago.  My parents were not very talkative and I must admit that I was quite afraid to talk to my dad.  It was as if I was a child afraid to be scolded.  In my family, just like many Asian families, affection was not outwardly displayed.

Looking back now, I regret never having expressed my feelings to my father when he was still alive.  Thus it must be said that we should always live today as if there were no tomorrow.  There is no point crying over spilled milk.  If we do not make the effort to express our feelings to our loved ones when they are still with us, then it is useless to regret when they are gone.

Since Father’s Day is just around the corner, let us take some time now to think of how we can show our love for the first man in our lives.  Let us thank them for all that they have done for us.  It is now our turn to do something for them in return.

For some, it may be bringing them out for a meal or just spending some time with them.  For others, especially if you are far away from each other, a telephone call would be great.  Yet for some, it may be just sending some fathers day cards to express their love and gratitude for father.

If you like to send a fathers day greeting card, check out this unique online personalized greeting card system where you can design your card online, add memorable photographs of dad and family as well as send a gift together with your greeting card.  Imagine the surprise on father’s face when he receives this specially made customized physical greeting card!  I have seen such cards brighten the lives of many people and I have no doubt that they will also help in brightening the lives of the fathers in your life.

Or if you would like to present a gift card to Father on this special day, check this out.

Instead of just a fathers day card, you can also get Father a special fathers day gift at Shop Amazon Gift Cards – Perfect Father’s Day Gifts.  This promotion ends 17 June 2012.

So don’t wait!  Start thinking of how you would like to show your love and gratitude to your father this coming fathers day.  Greeting cards are a great way and I personally love using this particular online personalized greeting card system which has touched many lives.

In this article, I would like to emphasise the importance of having a network marketing mindset especially if you are in the network marketing MLM industry.  Many of you join such home business opportunities only to drop out a few months later.  However if you were to examine the network marketing business closer, you would see that the top distributors are making a very healthy five to six figure monthly.  How did they do that?

What if I can show you a way that you could be living a life of your dreams?  Would you be ready and wiling to take the challenge and change your future forever?

Firstly, I have to emphasize that this is definitely NOT a get-rich-quick scheme.  It will take time, commitment and effort on your part to get your business going and running on its own, whilst giving you a passive residual income.

When young, we are all told to study hard so that we could go to University and get good grades so that we could land a great job and earn a good income which would allow us to live a good life.  Has this proven true for you?

If you are familiar with Robert Kiyosaki’s 4 quadrants, you will realize that you don’t get rich working for people.  You may be making your boss rich but that is about as near as you get to seeing the money.

Network Marketing Mindset

Network Marketing Mindset

So why do famous billionaires like Robert Kiyosaki and Donald Trump endorse network marketing?  That is because network marketing also known as multi-level marketing and home business opportunities can save the world.  Network marketing is a simple concept but one needs to think differently if one wishes to succeed.  Success is a mindset.  To be successful, one needs to have the right attitude.

Network  marketing can give you the financial freedom you are looking for.  However if you are looking at the network marketing MLM business, you need a different way of thinking.  You need to think of the future and not just the current.  You need to PLAN and map out your progress so that you can keep track of your performance.

When you join a network marketing MLM business, you become your boss.  Since network marketing allows you to start your business with a lower capital and no overheads, it does not burn a hold in your pocket and you need not take a bank loan as with a traditional business.

As with any business, there will be lots of work and effort required especially in the beginning where you start to build your team.  This team is going to allow you to leverage your time since you will be paid over and over again on the results of your team members.  This is the beauty of network marketing.  You are in the business for yourself but not by yourself.

Building this team is going to be tough in the beginning.  You may face many obstacles along the way.  You may find that you are not making ay money in the beginning.  However if you do not persevere and just quit, you are doomed.

The book “Parable of the Pipeline” by Burke Hedges gives a very good description of this process.  Either you remain as bucket carriers where you stick to your 9 – 5 job and are paid according to your output OR you start to build a pipeline now where money will continue to flow your way in the future even when you sleep.

So if you are prepared to inculcate a network marketing mindset, and be consistent in your efforts to build your network marketing MLM business and not give up, go ahead and look for a work from home business opportunity where you have a passion in the product and/or service.  Wishing you success in your new business venture…  :D

Thank You Greeting Cards

Thank You Greeting Cards

Thank You Greeting Cards – Testimonials

When we were young, our parents taught us to mind our Ps and Qs. In other words, we were reminded to always be on our best behaviour and to mind our manners. What comes to mind are the numerous Christmas greeting cards and Thank You greeting cards that we were made to send.

Over the years, no matter what we did, if we were to show our appreciation and stay in touch with friends, our relationship somehow blossomed. The same can be said for businesses as well.

The more we keep in touch with our customers and clients on a regular basis, the more we show our gratitude and appreciation for the support given to us, the more our customers and clients kept us in their minds which led to more orders and eventually more business and better deals.

Here are two testimonials that I would like to share regarding sending thank you greeting cards.

1. Sent a thank you greeting card to a beautiful resort that we had the good fortune to stay in.

As we had such a memorable experience at the resort, and because we felt that two of the staff there really excelled in their hospitality, we decided to write a thank you card to the management of the resort to commend them for a wonderful team.

To emphasize our great sense of satisfaction with the resort, we also mentioned that a friend of ours had immediately booked a room at the resort after hearing of our experiences.

Upon receiving the card, the management immediately sent us an email to acknowledge receipt of the card as well as thank us for our sincere appreciation of their services. In addition, they asked for the name of our friend who would be arriving the day after.

Upon checking with our friend upon his departure, our friend was thrilled to learn that he had been upgraded to the 2-bedroom villa that cost more than double the price of what he had paid!

WOW! That was so unexpected and such a sweet surprise for our friend.

2. Sent a thank you greeting card to the facilitator of The Secret, a movie that we were watching during a group gathering.

During the session, I had a chat with the facilitator and she had asked me if I could customize certain products for her customers if she put in an order with me. She then told me that she would pass me the order soon.

Even after sending her information on the products, there were no orders forthcoming in the next few days.

One day, she emailed me:
“THANK YOU very much for the beautiful thank you card you have sent.
I did not expect anyone to thank me as I wanted to contribute and give and support the event, what a pleasant surprise!
I fully appreciate your appreciation, thanks and kind thoughts!”

In addition to the above came two orders for my product in the same email. And she has gone on to become one of my regular customers.

What we give, comes back to us tenfold. A simple gesture of appreciation, making someone feel special through thank you greeting cards is something that can bring your business to the next level.

Multi-Level Marketing

Multi-Level Marketing

In this current economy, where jobs are increasingly hard to come by and most families need to survive on dual income, more and more enlightened folks are joining multi-level marketing (MLM) as a profession.

Why Multi-Level Marketing?

Multi-level marketing is just a marketing strategy that relies on word-of-mouth marketing.  When you discover something great, you tend to share with others, but you do not get paid.  In multi-level marketing, when you share with others, you get paid for the sales you personally generate.

At the same time, when you refer others into the business, you are paid a certain amount of commission on their sales as well.   Thus, a successful network marketer or multi-level marketer can have thousands in his/her organization and easily make six figures a month.

Which MLM Opportunities to Join

With that being said, with the thousands of MLM opportunities in the market, which is the right one for you?   How should you go about choosing the right MLM business?

Here is a list that you would do well to take note of when deciding which MLM to join, though not necessarily in the order they are listed:-

  1. How long has the company been operating?  It is best to choose a company that has been around for at least five years.
  2. Is the company debt free?
  3. What products and/or services does the company offer?
  4. How big is the industry?
  5. Do you personally like and will you use the products and/or services?
  6. Is the product and/or service evergreen?  You do not want a product and/or service that is only capitalizing on the current trend.
  7. Is the product and/or service offered at an affordable price?
  8. How generous is the compensation plan?
  9. Does the company have a proper training system?

10. How interested is the company in you, the distributor?

Why Many Network Marketers Fail

Joining a multi-level marketing company is like starting up any business.  The only difference is that you do not have to cough up hundreds of thousands of dollars as you would if it were a brick-and-mortar business.  Due to this fact, many network marketers do not take their business seriously enough.

Most network marketers do not even know their WHY of joining the business.  Yes, most everyone wants to make some extra income.  But that alone is not enough to drive one to build the business.  You need to be able to drill down deep and know what is the cause or burning desire for you.  Without that, when challenges appear, whatever enthusiasm you started off with will tend to fizzle out and the result is to give up!

Success As A Multi-Level Marketing Professional

Though it is tough deciding which multi-level marketing company to join, once you know your burning desire and join the right company for you, with time and effort, you will be able to reap your just rewards.  Financial freedom and time freedom is just a doorstep away and I know many professional network marketers who are living the life of their dreams!

Think and Grow Rich

Think and Grow Rich

Continuing with Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich summary of chapter 2, I am even more convinced that if I can master the burning desire that Napoleon talks about, I am definitely able to bring about much more success in my life.

After the first chapter, I had indicated that I had made 3 appointments for my relationship marketing tool business over a period of 4 days, much more than I had in 4 months!  I had only read the first chapter and taken action.  That is the start of my journey and looking forward to many more successes to come.

The second chapter of Think and Grow Rich emphasizes the importance of having a consuming obsession of what you desire.  The need to have a definite goal in mind, focusing all your energy, will power and determination of attaining that cherished goal is of utmost importance.

Burning desire to win

Even though you may be presented with not a single ray of hope, as long as you maintain a ‘Burning Desire To Win’ state of mind whilst holding on to the fire of hope, faith, courage and tolerance as well as be willing to burn your ships and all sources of retreat, the Universe can and does present it to you on a silver platter when you are ready for it.

This was very apparent when Napoleon narrated the story of his son, Blair, who was born without any physical sign of ears and without any natural equipment for hearing.  With no way of conveying sound to the brain without the aid of ears, Blair was destined to be disfigured and remain a deaf mute for life.  Even the doctor admitted that Blair might be deaf and mute for life!

Unfailing faith

However, Napoleon refused to accept that fact and had a burning desire that his son would not remain a deaf mute.  This burning desire kept him looking for various ways and means of conveying sound to Blair without the aid of ears.  In Napoleon’s mind, there was unfailing faith that his son would hear and speak.

Going by his quote “Our only limitations are those we set up in our own minds”,  Napoleon went about filling Blair’s mind so completely with a burning desire backed by faith to hear, speak and be normal so much so that Nature would translate it into a physical reality.  Napoleon went about by planting in Blair’s mind that his affliction as not a liability but rather an asset of great value.

Napoleon himself admitted that he had no idea how the affliction could ever become an asset.  Realizing the Blair could hear when he spoke with his lips at the base of Blair’s brain, Napoleon continued to push reason aside and on a daily basis, shared inspiring bedtime stories designed to develop in Blair self-reliance, imagination and a keen desire to hear and be normal.

By refusing to accept Nature’s error, and by persistent desire, it seemed as if a stroke of magic occurred when Blair was given an electrical hearing device to test and voila! he could hear for the very first time!!!

This was simply amazing!  Blair soon went to work for the company and started teaching other deaf mutes to hear and to speak.  The liability had indeed turned into an asset.

Here are the 3 key steps that brought about the miracle:-

  1. Napoleon planted the desire to hear and speak as any normal person in Blair’s mind.  At the same time, Napoleon also planted the desire to convert his greatest handicap into his greatest asset.  Both the desires had become reality.
  2. Napoleon communicated his burning desire to Blair in every way conceivable over the years and never gave up.
  3. Blair had faith in his father and believed every word Napoleon said without any doubt.

In summary, the burning desire must exist and you must have faith and believe that you will achieve what you so desire.

Napoleon Hill Think And Grow Rich Summary Chapter 1

Think and Grow Rich

Think and Grow Rich

WOW! I have heard about Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich book and those who have read it highly recommend it. However, it was not until the previous day when I finally downloaded it, sat down and started reading it. Here is the Think and Grow Rich summary of Chapter 1 from my personal point of view and how it has impacted my life.

One of the stories in chapter 1 of Think and Grow Rich is basically recounting the story of how Edwin C. Barnes’ burning desire to become a partner of the famous Thomas A. Edison came true. In addition, it gives a running commentary of how Barnes managed to overcome all objections and opposition to finally get him into that business association he so desired.

Barnes had nothing to his name to begin with. He had little education, no influence and no money. However, with his burning desire to get into a business alliance with Edison, and his dogged determination to achieve it combined with his initiative and faith, he went on to become Edison’s business partner.

Some of the Law of Success principles include the following ways to translate desire into reality.

* THOUGHTS become THINGS, powerful things when combined with purpose, persistence and burning desire

* It is the THOUGHT that counts

* When one is truly READY for something, it appears

* When one truly DESIRES something deeply and willing to go against all odds to get it, he is sure to win

* Adopt a DEFINITE PURPOSE, and stand by it until it fully consumes you

* A dogged DETERMINATION of a single DESIRE can overcome all objections and opposition, and bring about an opportunity

* OPPORTUNITY may not come in the form that you expect. Be prepared to recognize this trick of opportunity as it frequently presents itself as a misfortune or temporary defeat

* Great SUCCESS comes just one step beyond the point of defeat


In essence, as Napoleon Hill puts it:- All achievement, all earned riches, have their beginning in an idea!

Many of us stop just short of success and give up. Napoleon outlines the story of Darby and his uncle who went on a gold hunt and found their pot of gold. However, they came to a shock when they could no longer find the pot of gold. It seemed as if the vein of gold ore had totally disappeared.

Disappointed, they quit and sold the machinery to a junk man for a few hundred dollars. Getting expert advice from a mining engineer, the junk man made millions of dollars when the engineer showed that the vein of gold ore was just three feet from where Darby had stopped drilling.

Darby later went on to sell life insurance and everytime he came across prospects who said ‘no’ to buying insurance, he reminded himself that he had stopped just three feet from the gold before and thus he would never stop just because he was faced with ‘no’ from prospective clients.

Riches begin in your mind when you have a definite purpose. Success comes to those who think success. Our brains get powerfully magnetized with our dominant thoughts and attract these back to us. Thus, if you want to be rich, you have to think of being rich and become ‘money conscious’. Create the desire for money which then drives us to create definite plans for acquiring it.

After just reading the first chapter of Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich, I managed to set up appointments with 3 different persons over the next 4 days to share a relationship marketing tool which allows people to show gratitude and appreciation to the people in their lives. This is the start of a change in my life!

Personalized Christmas Card

Personalized Christmas Card

Personalized Christmas Card

WOW! We are already in the last quarter of the year with festive seasons aplenty! I am so looking forward to sending my close contacts and family members customized and personalized Christmas card. What about you?

Most of us know that Christmas is a season for giving. The retail sector would usually see a huge jump in sales with people doing last minute shopping for gifts and taking advantage of the year end sales. Not only is Christmas the peak season for the retail sector, the postal services also experience a spike in business with many people still sending out personalized Christmas cards. The custom Christmas card is very much appreciated though it is rare to receive cards these days as many have switched over to e-cards.

What if you have a very interesting online system that you can use to send out your yearly personalized Christmas card as well as other cards of appreciation to people?

What if you can save time and cost by using this online system and surprise your recipients when they receive a physical card printed on recycled paper?

What if you can create an interesting Christmas photo card and insert memorable pictures of yourself and your recipients on the card?

As we move nearer to the Christmas season, you may have a lot of cards to write.  How would you like to design your very own personalized Christmas card at a fraction of the cost you would have paid for if you had bought a non-customized Christmas card from the store?

This online system works in the following way:

1. You go online and select a card design from over 10,000 designs (you can even upload your own design).

2. You type in your message (this will appear just as if it is hand-written).

3. You can upload photos as well inside the card or on the cover! (Imagine how impressed your recipient will be when they receive your card with your picture or even a memorable picture of them on the card?)

4. You type in the address and click SEND!

Once you click ‘SEND’, the company will print out the card, put it into an envelope, stamp it and then send it out for you!

If you are looking at sending out these personalized Christmas cards to all your friends and family, do not fret.  I managed to send more than 100 cards in less than an hour last year!  Would you like to be able to that as well?

The best part of this is that it is 50% cheaper compared to the ones in Hallmark or any of the local stores :)

So if you are keen to use this online system to send out your personalized Christmas card, send me a message and lets get you started!  This is an amazing system which I so love and I am sure you will too…  :)

I look forward to hear from you, take care and have a great time!

P.S. This system is perfect for Trainers, Financial Advisors, Real Estate Professionals and any services targeting at the masses  :)

This is a review of the book “Stay The Course” by Adam Packard.

Why are you looking at home based business opportunities?  Are you looking to be financially free and live your dream life?  Are you looking to be able to spend quality time with your loved ones?  Are you looking to wake up each day when you wish to without having to listen to the alarm clock?

Well, you are in the right place at the right time.  Your choice from the thousands of home based business opportunities will allow you to create a second well where you can start to build your residual income.

Anyone can succeed in a network marketing business if they follow certain guidelines.  The wonderful part is that they get to run their business anyway they want.

  1. Be a product of the product – Whatever the home based business opportunity you are promoting, be sure to use the product.  Be excited and enthusiastic.  Imagine showing the plan/product to someone when you are not excited about it?  How many people do you think will get all excited about your opportunity?  Teach this to your team and stay plugged in.
  2. Get started immediately – It is not necessary for you to know each and every detail of the compensation plan to get started as this will slow your growth in the business.  As your team grows, your residual income will grow as well.  It pays to remember that in this beautiful opportunity, there is no income ceiling as what you would face in a traditional job.
  3. Be committed and Focused – Direct your focus.  Concentrate your power.  Have a clear state of mind and do not get distracted.  The grass always looks greener on the other side but if you do not continue to water the grass and fertilize it, it will not grow well and you will not see the fruit of your labour.
  4. Find your Why – Why did you join your network marketing home based business opportunity?  Drill down deep and get to the root of your Why and what you are really working for.  On days when you feel blue, go through your Why and if it is strong enough, this will fuel you to move forward.
  5. Treat it as a business – What is great about your network marketing home based business opportunity is that it does not cost you an arm and a leg to get started.  However that is where the downfall of many representatives begins as well.  Since the business only costs a few hundred dollars, any people do not take this business seriously.  Be accountable and keep score.
  6. Never ever give up – As with any businesses, there will be great days as well as shitty days.  To allow yourself to feel frustrated on those shitty days and give up is to take yourself out of the action and short-change yourself.  Look at every experience as a chance to learn and grow.
  7. Spend your time wisely – Are you involved in activities that help move your business forward?  Continuously building your contact list and working through your list will allow you to see the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
  8. Positive self affirmations – Such statements focus your mind on what you want and who you want to be.  This is effectively putting the Law of Attraction to work for you.

Remember above all, that such home based business opportunities are not ‘get rich quick’ programs.  It needs lots of time, commitment and effort especially at the beginning.  You will not be wrong to take it as a ‘get rich slowly’ program.

Last, but not least, have fun!  Enjoying your business is the key to success.

Are You In A Relationship?

Relationship building
Relationship building

Read this some time back and it never fails to bring tears to my eyes. Thought this is fitting for everyone, especially those in a relationship.


When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her out from the bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door every morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to Jane’s place…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in bed – dead.

My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.– At least, in the eyes of our son— I’m a loving husband….


The small details of your lives are what really matters in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage.

Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.


If you wish to acknowledge someone you love or have feelings for and have not told them before nor let them know how you feel, check out this relationship building website now!  Take action and do not waste the opportunity.  Our relationships are so precious and we have to learn to treasure it.  Start celebrating life!

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